Day 78

Day 78:Real Time
Day 2: 21 Day Complaint Free Journey


On the surface, it might seem that gaining acceptance in one’s life would mean accepting the fact that we complain. After all, it’s part of who we are (at least some of us), isn’t it? Shouldn’t we, therefore, accept that piece of our personal puzzle, too?

Hmmmm. Interesting thought experiment.

And after I experimented with that thought one morning in the early morning shadows, I found the deeper variable to the equation. If we are truly accepting of life, we accept the people and events that revolve around us as THEY present themselves. And if we are operating in the present moment, each frame of life is new, with no past and no future to taint our view.

Thus, we should have no need to complain. We cannot control, nor should we expect to control, how others live their lives. (This is why Will Bowen says that we should not take the liberty of calling someone else out when THEY complain. We all have enough to worry about with our own griping and grousing. )

Easy? Think again. It’s been one of the most difficult transitions to even get started within the scope of my daily walk through life. It has been even more difficult than not complaining.

I don’t anticipate ever being truly successful at listening to someone I’ve known a long time and hearing only the words they are speaking RIGHT NOW. No history, no future. Just right this minute. But if you give it a try, I believe you will find it an amazing experience.

Day 2, right this minute.