Day 50: Real Time
Day 5: 21 Day Complaint Free Journey
I’ve had friends in the past who were chronic complainers. They didn’t even know they did it. We would meet for a meal and the litany would begin, usually the same one over and over, whatever or whoever the constant yoke around their neck. We could have taped the previous meeting and just hit “play” and saved us both a lot of time. Except our spirits would still be crushed for the rest of the day either way.
It is so wearing, isn’t it?
I don’t want to be that person. The one with friends who get back in their cars, exhausted and drained from simply sharing time with me. The one people start avoiding on the phone, deleting my emails unread, and slowly easing me from their lives when they just couldn't listen to it one more time.
I’m on my 5th day of the path to being complaint free. The path that leads to joyous conversations about the beauty inherent in our lives each day, if we only allow ourselves time to see it.
Another way of looking at it, too, is that I have been aware of the alternate path for 50 days. Sometimes the saddest wrong turns happen when we didn’t even see another trail stretching ahead, one that could have led us to fantastic, wondrous destinations.
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I too have had chronic complainers as friends in the past. I found the need to sever the relationship a wonderful release and easier than to listen to them yet again! It was joyous in fact. I have the new motto " I would rather have no friends than bad friends" good advice to follow. I'm new at not complaining, is this a complaint?
ReplyDeleteNo, it's a statement of fact so far! And I agree..it's what I had to do, and it's heartbreaking sometimes to walk away from a friendship that has often been long term. But, toxic friendships are better left, as you've pointed out. Thanks for reading...
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